Who Would You Chat With?

Brocker · #1 (**permalink**) 23-12-2007, 09:33 PM

Ok everybody. Here's one for you. I am preparing to sit down with my little girl tomorrow night and tell her a magical story for Christmas Eve to get her in that melancholy mood for the big day and a thought struck me. Or more of a question really so I am going to pose it to you intelligent bunch. . . . If you a single opportunity to have a fireside chat with any one person, either alive or not, who would it be and why? . . . For me it would be my Great, great grandfather. It would interest me to know how they made the most of Christmas all that time ago with very little money and big families. .

naturelover · #2 (**permalink**) 23-12-2007, 10:01 PM

very interesting subject,for me it would be some thing like my great great great grandfather too,because lots of generations back my grandmother married a greek and i have wondered for years about it,my grand fathers surname was ennos which is greek,my children and i have done a family tree to find out but without paying for lots of birth certificates we came to a stand still in 1700 something.

tufftie · #3 (**permalink**) 24-12-2007, 06:48 AM

My father (died some years ago now) so that we could have one last fireside story telling session.

aestarte · #4 (**permalink**) 24-12-2007, 02:22 PM

I would really like to have a mother daughter chat with my mum, she died a few years ago and i still miss her and i miss our chats and her advice. You dont realize how important certain people are until they are gone. Fi. X X X X

dmclean2 · #5 (**permalink**) 24-12-2007, 02:31 PM

For me, it would have to be the philosopher Socrates, To find out what he was discussing with the youth of the city, to warrant the use of poison as a death sentence, administered by his own hand for corrupting their minds,If indeed they were corrupted
This was the charge brought against him by the Statesmen.
Quote: "Is that which is Just, Right ?", or "That which is Right, Just ?"
from "The Trial and Death of Socrates"
Duncan.

Meta menardi · #6 (**permalink**) 24-12-2007, 02:39 PM

I've always had a hankering to talk to Henri Fabre. He was so wrapped up in observing things and well ahead of what others were doing. On the debit side, he did say that spiders never repaired their webs, on the plus side he did get sacked for daring to educate girls as well as boys.

I would have to brush up my Fench. A lot. An awful lot.

Dutchess · #7 (**permalink**) 24-12-2007, 11:53 PM

Oh! Good question. Thomas Hardy. Or Tolkien. Hardy for the factual/reality side of things (and to probe his private life a little - what on earth was going on in the man's heart....) and Tolkien because of the sheer genius of the man. In his own Tolkien world - he is The Creator - he is God!

DaiTheDragon · #8 (**permalink**) 25-12-2007, 05:29 AM

I would like to speak to myself in my past life. The I could tell me to get a grip and enjoy this life.

Dai

Dutchess · #9 (**permalink**) 27-12-2007, 11:32 AM

Gosh yes, Dai. What a brilliant idea. I'd like to visit me when I was in my late twenties. I'd certainly steer me to the correct course!

(Btw, I'm a "wise" (!) old crone of 50 now....;-))

hannahpanda · #10 (**permalink**) 27-12-2007, 07:39 PM

My grandmother that I was named after, she died before i was born.
Or Sammo Hung or Jackie Chan hehe

seamusagleann · #11 (**permalink**) 27-12-2007, 08:36 PM

given a chance like that the list,for me would be almost endless. charles darwin, izaac walton , peter scott, and george mallory for starters . my kind of night in ,evolution,angling,ornithology and mountaineering ...and a nice log fire and malt whisky or two!

cherrybee · #12 (**permalink**) 27-12-2007, 09:08 PM

My Mum Dad and Sister I miss them so much this time of year

Lincs Yellowbelly · #13 (**permalink**) 27-12-2007, 09:45 PM

Probably would be my Great Grandad on my mothers side, he died a few years before my birth

apparantly he was nature mad, which is probably where I got it from. It'd be great to chat to him about all the things he's seen and places he's been

maybe if there is such a thing as an afterlife I'll get a chance

nightshade · #14 (**permalink**) 28-12-2007, 07:10 AM

Anyone who would alter the state this country is in

Many of the old tradespeople would have tales to tell ;The butcher,The baker,
The milkman,The farmer

juliejam · #15 (**permalink**) 28-12-2007, 12:45 PM

It would have to be My Stepdad..he came into my family when i was eight yrs old and stayed with us there till i was sixteen..He died suddenly at the age of just forty two..Would like to tell him how happy he made my mum plus what a great job he did in bringing up my brother.. sisters and myself..I still often think of him after all these yr ..He will never be forgotten..

Julie

Kymba · #16 (**permalink**) 28-12-2007, 01:04 PM

I have a couple that i would find it hard to choose between, but would be happy with any of them..
1) Nelson Mandela
2) Scott of the Antartic
3) Michael Stipe (REM lead singer)
4) David Attenborough

snowdrop · #17 (**permalink**) 28-12-2007, 02:00 PM

Probably Adam, to tell him not to eat the apple. LoL

PMG · #18 (**permalink**) 28-12-2007, 02:28 PM

I'm with the other members here who have lost family members. My dad died two years ago August and I still feel like I have lost an arm and a leg as I am his clone..........

Pauline

PMG · #19 (**permalink**) 28-12-2007, 10:00 PM

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Originally Posted by snowdrop

Probably Adam, to tell him not to eat the apple. LoL

I've tried to put this answer to your kind email but its been returned - there may be a fault as I see folks have been having trouble getting in - whilst I have been logged on all day..................

So thank you - for the kind words snowdrop........ I'm sorry to hear you are suffering and maybe your loss is more recent in time than mine? Its hard to explain how to deal with it and everyone does it differently and yet it all comes down to the same in the end.

I've learned to hide it from view for the most part in order to regain normal interaction with folks again as I think doing that is a cycle that is self feeding - you try and act normal and eventually you do act normal. I don't think its denial its just a way of coping with something that cannot be altered. It then takes a very close or acute person to see the cracks - or an unwary and sudden post is blurted out which screams the obvious - as I did today! Actually it was cherrybees post about missing her mum sister and someone else close that set me off............ I was going to say its nice to know others suffer - but thats not what I mean! Its a relief to know that your not as mad as you think you are at times and to see, read or hear someone else admit that the cuts are deep.....

Bereavement I now see with hindsight does take a long time if you loved or were very close to someone. I'm the clone of my dad and he won't be entirely gone while I'm around and sometimes I feel he hasn't gone all that far but that might come down to being made from his genes rather than anything spiritual or supernatural! He had a cracking sense of humour and I'm just like him!

Anyway I wish all of us who have got to know loss a peaceful 2008............

Regards
Pauline

tufftie · #20 (**permalink**) 29-12-2007, 09:34 AM

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Originally Posted by PMG

I've tried to put this answer to your kind email but its been returned - there may be a fault as I see folks have been having trouble getting in - whilst I have been logged on all day..................

So thank you - for the kind words snowdrop........ I'm sorry to hear you are suffering and maybe your loss is more recent in time than mine? Its hard to explain how to deal with it and everyone does it differently and yet it all comes down to the same in the end.

I've learned to hide it from view for the most part in order to regain normal interaction with folks again as I think doing that is a cycle that is self feeding - you try and act normal and eventually you do act normal. I don't think its denial its just a way of coping with something that cannot be altered. It then takes a very close or acute person to see the cracks - or an unwary and sudden post is blurted out which screams the obvious - as I did today! Actually it was cherrybees post about missing her mum sister and someone else close that set me off............ I was going to say its nice to know others suffer - but thats not what I mean! Its a relief to know that your not as mad as you think you are at times and to see, read or hear someone else admit that the cuts are deep.....

Bereavement I now see with hindsight does take a long time if you loved or were very close to someone. I'm the clone of my dad and he won't be entirely gone while I'm around and sometimes I feel he hasn't gone all that far but that might come down to being made from his genes rather than anything spiritual or supernatural! He had a cracking sense of humour and I'm just like him!

Anyway I wish all of us who have got to know loss a peaceful 2008............

Regards
Pauline

Well put Pauline, though it's sometimes not so easy to put into practice if there are other things going on too! My mother died in 1990 and father in 1993 and my other relatives, bar an auntie, between then and now - we were a very close family. By and large i've dealt with it but as you say the odd thing still brings it all out again, especially at this time of year when i always wish i was part of a family again (and that's not a proposal to anyone - it has been misinterpreted like that recently..very strange!).

So, like Pauline i'd also like to wish a peaceful New Year to all who've had a loss.

Susie · #21 (**permalink**) 29-12-2007, 10:06 AM

I would choose to have a conversation with my brother who died when he was 18. He passed away a long time ago now, and we have learned to live with it as you do, but I still wonder from time to time what he would think about things.

Hugs to all of you who are still grieving and feeling raw for lost family and friends, whether it was a long time ago or recently.

PMG · #22 (**permalink**) 03-01-2008, 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Susie

I would choose to have a conversation with my brother who died when he was 18. He passed away a long time ago now, and we have learned to live with it as you do, but I still wonder from time to time what he would think about things.

Hugs to all of you who are still grieving and feeling raw for lost family and friends, whether it was a long time ago or recently.

Ssorry to hear about your brother Susie......... when folk are taken young you can't help but wonder what they would have turned into - what they would have become, done, seen, been etc .............

Thanks for the hugs to the rest of us tho xxxxxxxx

Pauline

Dogghound · #23 (**permalink**) 03-01-2008, 08:44 PM

Anyone from this site. Have a good old talk about wildlife.

Paul mabbott · #24 (**permalink**) 03-01-2008, 08:50 PM

Some very sad and sensitive comments here. My mother died a couple of years ago. Since she was in great pain and in a very undignified state, I would perhaps have welcomed the possibility of her going sooner .... I would certainly not want to overstay my own welcome, as it were

More in line with this thread, my father died must be thirty years ago. Like most fathers and sons we had our ups and down

but I still, from time to time, think, 'Must tell the old man about that', or 'Dad would be interested in that ...'! You never leave your loved ones in your minds!

So, while you're in touch with your own minds, you're living with all the departed as well.

Happy New Year(s)

Quote:

Originally Posted by PMG

Bereavement I now see with hindsight does take a long time if you loved or were very close to someone. I'm the clone of my dad and he won't be entirely gone while I'm around and sometimes I feel he hasn't gone all that far but that might come down to being made from his genes rather than anything spiritual or supernatural! He had a cracking sense of humour and I'm just like him!
Anyway I wish all of us who have got to know loss a peaceful 2008............
Regards
Pauline

Jez · #25 (**permalink**) 03-01-2008, 10:33 PM

I'd also like to talk to Tolken as around the Wyre Forest I believe theres so many clues to his inspirations. Here where I live we live away from the big folk in a peaceful farmland with small houses that lie in the hills awy from the Up & Bustle from the Town and civilisation. We also have Withybed wood with Dowles Brook that makes it's way to the Great River could this be Tolkiens Withywindle? Theres Baggins Wood to just up the Road and Underhill Farm, and in Kinver there are houses made in the Caves very smial like! I'm not Certain If this is Tolkiens Shire? But it certainly feels like it.