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Well folks I've survived my last afternoon at work ........ I haven't done everything there that I should have and will have to just tidy a few odds and ends when I get back from holiday. Have completed the packing tonight tho given up on packing the vehicle - willl just throw it all in tomorrow (including his mother!) and sort it out at the other end.......... what an incredibly stressful two weeks its been .......... hopefully we will reach the Cairngorms tomorrow and I will have the camera in my hands 14 hours a day!! That will set me up for my 'new' job of full time carer when I get back - something I am looking forward to - I want to give my mam love and attention while she can still enjoy it - thats my aim ........ but a break first to mark the end of one thing and the start of another is just what the doc ordered - back soon ........ - Yes - thanks Ellen - today has been better (it could hardly have been worse!) I took her to the bank and to collect my new contact lens (after breaking one last week) and mam suddenly says 'I like that lady thats coming - she's nice and chatty - I'm going to enjoy talking to her'...... Haliluyah .... a break thro finally! Have I packed for the hol on Sat morning - nope - not a thing ......... and is tomorrow afternoon my last day at work - yep - sure tis ......... so with that I'm off to bed for a good nights sleep while this rollar coaster has straightened out a bit (and here's hoping I'm not out of bed at midnight, 10 to one and 4am tonight with cramp!!!!) Thanks Ellen and everyone else who is keeping me in mind and sending good vibes - I think its working!! Nite nite. P xx
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Oh Pauline, I do hope you managed to get through last night!! Sounds like you had a really bad time of it,as you say there is no manual on dealing with these situiations. I feel useless as I have no easy fix to give you,suffice to say its normal to feel guilty when faced with a situation that you have no control over.Especially with people that you are close to,its really like a role reversal for you now where you are the mother to a clingy child.
Problem is I have no experience of that either-I am good with problem mutts tho-dont suppose that will be much good lol. Sit and wait may work in a firm but kind voice....:)
Seriously I hope you are feeling better today - Read second: Cont .....At work I would not be sent to deal with something I hadn't had training for .... but here I am dealing with a situation that has errupted beside me and I am woefully under prepared to deal with it. I'm sat here tonight feeling as guilty as original sin and wondering what I'm playing at - she's my mother - I should be doing better than this. If anyone has any advice on how to tune out the repeat questions and for me to keep calm and patient and not get to the stage of wanting to kill when all she wants is to be with me - then please let me know as I'm not making a success of this at the min........
- Read first ......Thank you HW and Ellen.... today has been upsetting: I'm stressed out with the whole situation and of course mam is feeding off the waves of anxiety I'm giving off and she;s gone in tight circles today and kept asking me every few mins what time the carers are coming, and are they coming every day, and why are they coming, and what are they going to do, and why do they have to be here...... I made her a lovely tuna pate and humous sandwich for dinner and left it on the counter with a message and a drink of juice beside it, but instead she goes and opens a big tin of tuna and nibbles at that and prob one or two other things.... when I came back with shopping for her for the whole week I go beserk ...... she ends up in tears and I'm to the stage where it is me who is going to 'stroke out' - not her ...Cont..... (for some reason there is a menu saying text is too long please shorten so have split it in two)
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18-03-2009 10:19 PM - permalinkHedge WitchPauline, thanks for the update. Gosh it's all go isn't it! I'm exhausted just reading all that's been going on.
I'm so pleased you've found some carers that you can rely on. You have a fantastic, well-earned break!
Take care.
xxx - Just read your updates,hope they did the thyroid test this morning! At least it looks like it isnt Alzheimers just old age-which happens to us all eventually!!
Hope you are ok,must say you seem much more positive in your postings :)
By the way whats this about someone going on holiday?? :) Have a great time,expect loads of photos.....Take care
ellen - A further update: those tests - they did everything except the one we needed ...... so its back to the hospital this morning for a fasting thyroid test ....... provided when I pick her up she hasn't ignored my big red printed notice that says - keep out of the musili until after the hospital!! The brain scan shows vascular damage as in blood vessels wearing out, plus a small old infarction - a small stroke at some time, but not any real evidence of Alzheimers. I suppose its what is classified as senile dementia if I have understood it properly - things wearing out rather than the brain bulk is itself being destroyed..... Joy the carer is a lovely lady - she fills me with confidence so thats going well. And the holiday packing - wot holiday packing ........ why is someone going on holiday ............. hahahaha! Must dash .........
- Just an update - we got to the docs (I only told her at dinner time that we were going!) only to find that those test results I was assured had arrived from the geriatric clinic were nowhere to be found.... so mam looks at me and says 'So I've wasted my time coming here today then...........' there's no answer to that! The doc is a smashing chap and he is going to chase the results down in person and fit in seeing me after surgery to discuss whats been found. Bless him - what a cutie! My main concern is that mams thyroid seems out of control again and I don;t want her having a heart attack while I'm on holiday.... rains and pours sound a familiar saying?! We are meeting the carers tomorrow so fingers crossed that my mam keeps calm and takes all this in her stride...............
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