[adamh]

well caaatt,
its something you love taken away, a family member, its a feeling of helplessness and instantly i also could begin to imagine the pain a parent suffers for a child taken alike. it brings stuff home. was that the purpose of my cats life? to bring it home and make me feel like absoloute ?.
i'm 36 yrs and i guess 16 / 36 / 85 its no different.

life is full of suprises and i have learnt that dealing with death is another one of those very emotional rides that we bear with suprise.

I gave her the best i could, boiled fish, fryed sprats, salmon, skate, prawns, chicken.. all fresh stuff. and some days just normal tinned grub. why should it be treated any different than a human?, humans as devestating as it may be to loose, you can teach to avoid the roads fairly easy, the animals are slightly harder if not at our mercy totally. That puts it home to me real hard as i feel the helplesnesss as a race tied up in saving themselves and nothing else... not even another person, not even another cat. for gods sake could people just not slow down a bit.

cars are always going to be here, i guess pets and wildlife are to, i should hope. i am accepting that accidents are going to happen, but i find it difficult to accept that there is no ongoing solution / improving to people driving like maniacs in built up areas.

hi mike, yes i understand the perspective, and have forseen pushing it from another angle. If it saved some kids life that lives on the estate it honestly and truly would be worth it, i mean that, and bless my cat.
it is frustrating that the only way you can sometimes feel the effects and the urge to do something is after it has happened , you always have the rage in you to curse other drivers, but you dont have that personal experience that will never leave you.

i pity all parties involved in road accidents accidental or not as it were. if we all slowed down a bit it may help save lives, maybe even some of the planet. i wont be resigned to life like this...

nightshade yes i appreciate a cat has to run into the road, and it probably did run out from no-where into danger at the last second, but is it not true to say if the car were going slow enough she might have had a better chance of surviving, i also avoided a cat recently which ran across a busy 'A' road at the last second, it wasnt a housing estate.