Hello, please do not get rid of the pond, my daughter is the same over frogs toads and worms but thankfuly she as a twelve year old girl that will lift up drains or go to any lengths to save them, they now have a minature pond, I have let the fear of snakes ruin my hobby of fishing, I have not been for the last twelve months after seeing a number of large grass snakes, this makes me very silly but i cannot overcome it so i do understand these phobias anyway your partener does not need to come in contact with the frogs etc, tell him you like them and that is that,
people must put up with some things that their parteners like, good luck, aland.