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Originally Posted by eeyore Another forum I go on has the PM set up so you have to chose who you want to receive messages from - the down side of this is that it means that all moderations, warnings to wind necks in, and disputes between members, slanging matches etc (all of which are more common than there are here) take place in the publuic forum - which isnt so hot IMO |
The downside of that is that I would not get so many love emails from random members.
I dont mind getting PM's one little bit. In fact I think they are a valuable tool.
I respect the fact that some members feel it is better to say some things discreetly and whilst it may be better said out in the open I think they are entitled to that right.
I do know some members that have been very upset by some of my PM's - a genuine attempt to not be confrontational but they have chosen to take it in a negative way. I guess thats their perogative.
I guess its the same old story.
You shout idiot out in the high street and the idiot turns round. I dont even react, as I know I have done nothing wrong, but the idiot - he turns round.
What I am saying is if you have done nothing wrong then chances are the person is not having a go at you, but you will react if you know you have been out of order - thats the way I see it.
You must just think. Is he having a go at me? If its not justified then probably not, I may just have read it wrong